"Everybody's doing it..."

I'm not going to rant about computer dating because I don't know anything about it. Truth be known, given that I met Dorothy when we were fourteen and have been married forty-one years, I don't know anything about any kind of dating... What I do have some pretty good experience about is human "socionomics" (made this word up just now to cover the amount of "true", "essential", and "honest" self people spend in interaction with other humans; please don't throw it around until I can write a book with the title "Human Socionomics - Budgetting Our Investment in Human Interactions", okay?)

What I've experienced is that what you "see" in an individual, with very, very, very few exceptions, is NOT what you get. For example; If a guy has a serious pornography problem he is probably not going to list that on his profile for eHarmony, do you think? The same would probably be true for pedophilia, necrophilia, methamphetamine addiction, alcoholism, sado-masochism (well, maybe that one...), bulimia, exhibitionism, kleptomania, or any of the thousands of other pathological "tender mercies" with which we humans personalize our lives. So how would you know that Ted Bundy-types were Ted Bundy-types until you met them in person and hung out with them? It has been my experience that the "quirk-challenged" go to extreme lengths to cover up, camouflage, or outright deny their "quirkiness d' jour" and it requires prescience to flush them out into the light of day. THAT only brings them to light, dealing with them is another matter (better thou were Job, huh?), and ending them is light years more complicated than that. Truth be known, most of the "quirko-extremes" listed above lead more to compromises than resolutions.

Given this scenario, then, when would the lucky computer-dating relationship lottery winner learn about the quirkiness d' jour and how long would it take to flush it into the light, and how long would it take to flush it into the light of day, and then how much longer to effect the compromise or solution? It seems that computer-dating is convenience oriented anyway, isn't it, so wouldn't the "fox-and-hound routine" pretty much leave only the "con" in convenience? I fully understand it is much easier to sit in front of one's computer and fantasize about finding Prince or Princess Charming at eHarmony than it is to get dressed and go out into the world and participate in life, doing something that edifies one's soul, and see who you meet at that function also edifying their soul. Either way, it seems, you are rolling the dice and it comes down to whether or not what comes up on the die is real anyway. It seems that if one is going to have to do the "human contact" aspect anyway why not just jump right into it? Would appear that the netherworld of "Cyber" would afford the terminally quirky to perfect their mask whereas the "running into people" at events brings spontaneity into the equation and my experience is that the kind of quirkiness we're discussing here is frustrated (or flushed out) by spontaneity...

But anyway, what do I know, right, I've been married forever and the only dating I did was hanging out in Dorothy's back yard until she agreed to marry me.

Next; "Commitment" is not about the time you spend, it's a line you cross!